so i ranted this on skype & i thought i would just toss it u as a headcanon: my phasma does how she feels. in combat, she is dominant. in her life she is dominant. in the bedroom, she does how she desires. bECAUSE IN THE BEDROOM SHE’S GOVERENED BY SOMETHING MORE HUMAN. I.E.- DESIRE. she is not attracted to submissive men or women. she seeks an equal, an equal everywhere - the bedroom included. are there times where she wants to be pinned down & fucked to oblivion - yes. that’s a real, true release because she has sacrificed control. BUT SHE’S ALREADY SACRIFICED CONTROL BY HAVING SEX IN THE FIRST PLACE.  she’s exposed. she’s vulnerable.